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Yes to this! And the counter-approach doesn't have to be talking to them in whispery tones while plying them with Sad Beige toys. We can be messy and cranky and still support kids' autonomy. (As a middle school teacher and tired parent of a very sassy 4 year old, can confirm!) I wrote about this too, as you likely know: ryanroseweaver.substack…
Related: rethinkingschools.org/a…
Yes to this! And the counter-approach doesn't have to be talking to them in whispery tones while plying them with Sad Beige toys. We can be messy and cranky and still support kids' autonomy. (As a middle school teacher and tired parent of a very sassy 4 year old, can confirm!) I wrote about this too, as you likely know: https://ryanroseweaver.substack.com/p/passing-on-an-ethics-of-permission
Related: https://rethinkingschools.org/articles/i-wont-learn-from-you/
*sad beige toys* I'm dying 😂😂😂 It's hard to be in the Glennon Doyle set but also have a raucous personality..it's a dance to support and guide them to positive/appropriate communication.
Totally. I think scripts can be helpful, but ultimately, as individual parents, we all have to give ourselves permission to improvise. And sometimes raucousness is precisely what is appropriate, and it feels so good to lean into and model that full-throated expression of our Real Selves with our kids! I want mine to grow up knowing all of me (eventually) and I want to know all of him (as he chooses to reveal that). That’s my lens for choosing which parenting technique to try, and no one but us can determine whether it’s the “right” one or not. Terrifying? Liberating? Both?!